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9 common words and phrases you could be using wrong without realizing it

Kelly Laffey | 21:29 | 30.08.2018

Words are often misused in the daily flow of conversation. “Eggcorns” are words or phrases that are incorrectly used in place of others that sound similar. Recognizing eggcorns is key to proper grammar. Here are nine commonly misused words and phrases that you may not have known were incorrect.

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Words are misused all the time in the daily flow of conversation.

• “Eggcorns” are words or phrases that are incorrectly used in place of others that sound similar, like mistakenly saying “play it by ear” instead of “play it by year.”

• Recognizing and correcting eggcorns is key to proper grammar.

• Here are nine commonly misused words and phrases that you may not have known were incorrect.

Spoken language makes it easy to confuse the correct spelling of a phrase. The practice even has its own name: eggcorns.

According to Merriam-Webster, eggcorns are words or expressions that sound alike, but are mistakenly used in a seemingly logical way.

The word “eggcorn” itself serves as an example — if you didn’t know how to spell “acorn,” you might write “eggcorn.” Though both are pronounced similarly, they have very different meanings.

As the executive editor at Avenue, a luxury lifestyle magazine in New York, I come across misused words and phrases all the time. Most can be remedied if you take a moment to think about your intended meaning and the definition of your word choice.

Here are 9 common words or phrases you didn’t know you were using incorrectly, according to Merriam-Webster:

1. For all intents and purposes

For all intents and purposes” means “for all practical purposes” and is used to indicate that something has the same effect or gives the same result as something else. A good synonym is “essentially.”

However, the phrase is often misheard and mistakenly written as “for all intensive purposes.” Your purpose may be “intense,” but that is not what you intended to say.

2. Scapegoat

The word “scapegoat” is sometimes mistaken for “escape goat,” the Columbia Journalism Review notes. A “scapegoat” is someone who takes the blame for others. An “escape goat” is a farm animal on the run.

3. Biding my time

Bide means “to wait for.” Thus, “biding my time” is correct, as it indicates that you’re waiting for time to pass until something happens.

“Biting my time” is often incorrectly used in place of “biding my time,” according to The Sun.

4. Nip it in the bud

The phrase “nip it in the bud” means to stop an idea or action before it has time to mature.

“Butt” is commonly interchanged with “bud.” However, “bud” is the correct word, because the expression has its roots in gardening.

If you remove a bud from a plant, you’ll prevent the plant from growing and flowering.

5. Play it by ear

To “play it by ear” is to do something without special preparation, but it is mistakenly misheard and used as “play it by year.”

The expression “play it by ear” comes from music — if you were to play a song by ear, you’d perform it without having to read the music.

6. Pass muster

If you’re at an end-of-summer barbecue, you can “pass mustard” to someone across the table. If you’ve determined that something is satisfactory or to your liking, it “passes muster.”

The phrase derives its meaning from the military — a muster is a formal military inspection or a critical examination.

7. Moot point

There’s an episode of “Friends” where Joey references a “moo point” instead of the correct “moot point.” In his comical way, he gets the definition mostly correct: “It’s like a cow’s opinion. It just doesn’t matter.”

A “moot” point is something that can be open to debate, but the solution has no importance.. In addition to Joey’s “moo point,” “moot point” has also been confused for “mute point,” according to Dictionary.com.

8. Tongue-in-cheek

Often mistakenly written as “tongue and cheek,” “tongue-in-cheek” is an adjective used to convey insincerity, irony, or whimsical exaggeration.

9. Coleslaw

Because of its texture and temperature, “coleslaw,” the salad made of raw cabbage, is easily confused with the incorrect “cold slaw.”

The Aquarian swan?

Indeed we are creatures of habit. And when the bug bites and you find that special place where you find your rhythm it is a sure score that you shall return. Again and again. You find a reason, any reason! It’s a feeling you can’t fight with because however hard you fight, it shall beat you. So you concede before trying and flee to your brain place of oneness. And at every visit you shall be overwhelmed by the overpowering sense of completeness..of finding your centre. You breathe and feel the oneness with your special place. You are one with nature in such a complete way, such a new way, your body is no longer the hindrance because you feel as if you merge with the universe unencumbered. You seem to taste the flowing water without siping it, because it filters into you as it flows, as if you were submerged in it and it was flowing through your very being. A special place to call your own, a place where you merge. A place where you renew yourself. But I’m Aquarian..a water-bearer.., and the waters’ allure is beyond me. Is it my Achilles heel? Whenever she beckons, I run….

Tips on business, success and like by Chris Kirubi

Chris Kirubi is a Kenyan businessman, entrepreneur, industrialist and philanthropist.

He is one of Kenya’s richest individuals with a net worth of about $300 million, according to Forbes.

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Dr Kirubi is one of Kenya’s richest individuals with a net worth of about $300 million, according to Forbes.  (Courtesy)

The 77 year old thrives with challenges and is a strong believer of hard work and healthy competition as a means to creating environments conducive to sustained business growth.

He is an active social media user and on many occasions uses the platform to share tips on business, success and life.

Here are some of them in his own words, unedited:

Do your research thoroughly

If you understand an idea, you can express it so others can understand it. However, if you can’t explain it, you don’t really understand it; and you cannot invest in a business you don’t understand. So friends, do your research well and understand the idea or concept you want to execute before investing in it.

Learn new methods

One of the most important lessons I have come to learn over the years is that you can’t do today’s job with yesterday’s methods and be in business tomorrow. You must keep learning new methods and ways of doing things to keep abreast with the world’s ever changing trends.

Go for opportunities that will add value

“Whatever opportunity you decide to take should be in line with your vision. When I look at the opportunities that come my way, I often ask myself, will it add value to a business or individual? If I cannot add value or contribute to some sort of growth then I will not take it.”

Success has its ups and downs

“Business is always a struggle. There are always obstacles and competitors. There is never an open road, except the wide road that leads to failure. Every great success has always been achieved by fight. Every winner has scars….The men who succeed are the efficient few. They are the few who have the ambition and will-power to develop themselves. So choose to be among the few today.

11 horrible body language mistakes ( re-post)

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11 horrible body language mistakes that are hard to quit but you’ll be glad you did

Áine Cain | 23:21 | 04.04.2018

Poor body language habits can upend your whole image — here are some major mistakes to avoid.

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Slouching at work can do more harm than you think.  (Shootdiem/Shutterstock)

• Body language is a major part of how we communicate.

• It’s important to cultivate positive body language habits and avoid other behaviors that diminish how you appear to others.

• Slouching, shuffling, and aggressive eye contact are all body language habits that are best to drop.

It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.

It’s a cliché, but it’s true. Body language is a crucial part of communicating. The way you act can warp the entire meaning of what you’re saying.

That being said, bad body language habits are the often hardest habits to break. We become so accustomed to slouching, averting our eyes, or folding our arms that we barely even notice what we’re doing.

Here are several body language mistakes that are going to be tough to ditch. Still, if you’re able to quit them, you’ll definitely thank yourself later.

Fidgeting

Fidgeting  (Mark Spearman/Flickr)

If you’ve gotten into the habit of fidgeting, it can be difficult to snap out of it. But it’s important to take steps to reigning in this nervous habit.

Fidgeting demonstrates nervousness and a lack of power, as body-language expert and “The Power of Body Language” author Tonya Reiman previously told Business Insider.

Playing with your hair

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Playing with your hair  (Christian Scheja/Flickr)

Leave your hair alone. Constantly running your hands across your scalp and twirling your locks is pretty distracting. Plus, as ABC reported, it can damage your hair overtime. It can be hard to quit, so try playing around a stress ball instead of your hair.

Adopting a defensive pose

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Adopting a defensive pose  (Sebastiaan ter Burg/Flickr)

Many people naturally cross their arms or hunch over a bit just because they don’t know what to do with their hands.

However, this posture can make you look uncomfortable, defensive, or untrustworthy.

“You should always keep your hands in view when you are talking,” Patti Wood, a body- language expert and author of ” SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma,” previously told Business Insider. When a listener can’t see your hands, they wonder what you are hiding.”

Doing weird things with your hands

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Doing weird things with your hands  (Carmella Fernando/Flickr)

To gesture or not to gesture? That is the question.

Some people keep too still while speaking, while others flail all over the place.

As The Washington Post reported, behavioral consultant Vanessa Van Edwards notes that using hand gestures while speaking is actually an effective way to engage your audience.

The trick is, avoiding the hand gestures that will trip you up. Don’t point, don’t pretend to conduct an imaginary orchestra (seriously), and don’t get too choreographed.

Shuffling instead of walking

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Shuffling instead of walking  (Leon Neal/Getty Images)

Humans are pretty judgmental creatures. We think we can tell a lot about someone based on snap judgments over something as simple as their manner of walking.

BBC reported that how we walk can actually determine our risk of being mugged. Criminals are less likely to target people walking with an air of confidence.

It can be hard to change up your walk once you’ve fallen into bad habits, but it’s important to walk with confidence and coordination. Don’t shuffle through life.

Forgetting to smile

Forgetting to smile  (.zaim./Flickr)

Reiman previously told Business Insider that smiling demonstrates confidence, openness, warmth, and energy.

“It also sets off the mirror neurons in your listener, instructing them to smile back. Without the smile, an individual is often seen as grim or aloof,” she explained.

Appearing distracted

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Appearing distracted  (Strelka Institute for Media, Architecture and Design/Flickr)

There’s nothing more irritating than talking to someone who’s clearly not paying attention to you.

Some people are just naturally distracted or busy, so it can be tempting to check your phone or watch at every available moment. Still, you’ve got to keep this impulse in check when you’re around others. Otherwise, you’ll just come across as a rude and uncaring person.

Slouching

Slouching  (Flickr / Pabak Sarkar)

Stand up straight. Terrible posture is easy to develop, especially if you’re slouched over a desk for the majority of the day.

Slouching doesn’t just make you look un-confident, writes Catherine New for Psychology Today, it’s also bad for your back. Improve your health and the image you present to the world by standing up straight.

Nonexistent or aggressive eye contact

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Nonexistent or aggressive eye contact  (Bimbim/Shutterstock)

Here’s another body language pitfall where moderation is key.

What Your Body Says (And How to Master the Message)” author Sharon Sayler previously told Business Insider that the ideal amount of eye contact should be “a series of long glances instead of intense stares.”

Overly long stares can make whoever you’re talking to pretty uncomfortable. On the other hand, averting your eyes indicates disgust or a lack of confidence.

Being too still

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Being too still  (Strelka Institute for Media, Architecture and Design/Flickr)

It’s definitely good not to be jumping all over the place, constantly. However, you don’t want to be too eerily calm during conversations. This may make people feel uneasy, or that you’re not interested in what they’re saying.

Instead, try to mirror the person you’re speaking with. Don’t mimic them — they’ll probably get offended by that — but subtly copy some of their gestures and expressions.

Writing for Psychology Today, Dr. Jeff Thompson notes that mirroring will leave people perceiving you as positive and persuasive.

It can be tough to break out of your poker face, especially if you’re just naturally not that expressive — but it’s worth trying, since it can improve how you’re perceived.

Mismatching verbal and non-verbal communication

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Mismatching verbal and non-verbal communication  (guruXOX/Shutterstock)

You might be saying all the right things — but if your body language doesn’t match up with your words, you might end up rubbing people the wrong way.

In fact, researchers at Sacred Heart University devoted an entire study to this phenomenon. Their subjects were married couples, but their finding was pretty universal — when verbal and non-verbal messages do not align, “nonverbal signals carry the brunt of the emotional message.”

Jacquelyn Smith contributed to a previous version of this post.